You see it everywhere. You see it in magazines. You see it on the web. What is it that I’m talking about?
You know what I am talking about. You see those women in the magazines, all skinny and toned. Women admire their bodies and want to look just like them. Men drool all over these pictures, since just looking is closest they might get being with another woman. Notice that I used the word might. Woman and men are guilty of the same thing. But, I’m just using the woman’s point of view since I am a woman. Men may want to look ripped, fit, and have muscle. Women also look at these pictures of fit, muscular men.
I know that everyone is not like this. However, there are people that are like this and it is real sometimes. I know that everybody thinks differently.
I don’t know statistics about this but I know that the media affects the adolescents (actually, everyone. Not just adolescents) in one way or another. One way to look at this is that women start comparing themselves to these people on the magazines and web. They have the “perfect” body. They wear the “perfect” clothes and make-up. They want to look like them because it is what they think is “desirable” in society.
They start dieting and going to extremes to lose weight to look like these women. Then, some spend tons of money on clothes, make-up and even plastic surgery. You know what? For the most part, it is unhealthy and unrealistic. Everybody is different. You don’t have to look that certain way to be desirable or look good. Not eating, restricting certain foods and food groups is not healthy. Excessive exercise is not healthy either to achieve these “perfect” bodies or women the media portrays.
What I found is that there are men that like curves. They like shape. Sometimes a very skinny person is unattractive because they’re afraid they can break them. Also, genetically speaking, curvier women tend to bear children better. It’s part of reproduction.
Woman are also starting to dress more provocatively, starting at a younger age. No 13 year old needs to wear a mini-skirt. What they should be focusing on is school and friends. It is what the media is doing. What annoys me is that more of the children clothes are smaller versions of adult clothes. What young girl needs a mini skirt? What young girl needs a bikini? It is really annoying the hell out of me. Sorry for my language. But these little kids need to be kids. Let them act like kids. Not like young adults. They don’t need a boyfriend by 6th or 7th grade. It’s crazy. They don’t need to wear a mini skirt to get a boyfriend because they don’t need one in the first place.
Another thing that gets to me is that it can get women jealous, looking at these magazines. Personally speaking, my ex wanted me to look like them. He wanted me to wear make-up, get a pedicure and manicure, and dress provocatively, you know, that stuff. He said I’d look so much prettier if I did. In my head, I was like, you are attracted to me without those. Why do you want me to wear that stuff now? So me, being jealous that his eyes will stray and might get bored and do some other things, starts wearing make-up and starts doing what he says. He says every girl gets a pedicure and manicure and wears make-up. He likes it when girls wear make-up.
Well, not every girl does. And, he doesn’t get that. Every girl wears make-up to impress guys, he says. And I’m like, dude. If I have to be superficial to get your attention, then that means your attention gets distracted pretty easily. And, you know what? I just want to be myself and do what I like. I find make-up useless and a waste of time to put on. Of course, I didn’t say that to him. But it shows how shallow some guys are.
The point with this is that women sometimes think it is what a guy wants. It gives guys the impression how women should be like. Well, you know what. It’s best to be yourself. Don’t be influenced by the media. If it’s about a guy, don’t worry. A guy should like you for being you. Hey. I don’t wear make-up. I don’t get pedicures and manicures (except for that one time). And I still dress normal. I don’t restrict my eating and I don’t exercise excessively. And, you know what? I still catch guy’s attention every single day that I am out. You don’t need to look like those models or celebrities to look pretty, nice, or desirable.
Sorry that this is a jumbled up post. My thoughts are all over the place. I’m not trying to be sexist or anything. Women and men are guilty of the same thing. Don’t let the media and social media affect who you are. Don’t let it affect how to perceive how others should be.